Afraid of Love
Bipolar 1, OCD, and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. These were the labels awarded me when a major breakdown at age 28 literally catapulted me into therapy. Later came yet another label, Asperger’s Syndrome. In crisis, I was given a choice: medication or a mental hospital. I chose medication.
At this point my life began. Having left behind a trail of failed relationships, I started my quest for love, this time by journeying within. For many years, I lived in a world of delusion and psychosis. Somehow I managed to keep working my job in a university library.
All along the motivation to get well arose from a partly delusional, somewhat complex, unrequited love for a woman at work. Heretofore, heterosexual I learned that I was bisexual. A surprise. Much more importantly, I learned that I had severe problems with my own identity. I was very split by Bipolar Disorder. So split I felt like two different people. Before loving anyone, I had to overcome major problems with closeness due to Asperger’s Syndrome.
I thought I had found someone to love but love was not to come until I struggled through 7 years of hard therapeutic work. I had to start from scratch. When love came, it came in the form of a man. He became my husband of 25 years, Thomas.
My book, “Eye-locks and Other Fearsome Things“, chronicles the journey just pre-breakdown through psychosis, towards some semblance of sanity. It closes with my finally finding love. And though it starts off with insanity, it addresses the very human problems of intimacy and fear of closeness. Meant to give hope to the mentally ill and help enlighten their therapists, my saga may help those of the sane world who have issues with love and intimacy, not just the mentally ill.
Available on Amazon Kindle, Barnes & Noble Nook, iBooks, and Smashwords, for $2.99, my book explains what it feels like to be Bipolar and on the Autism spectrum and explores the phantasmagorical mystery of love.
One review on Amazon.com by a psychologist:
July 1, 2014 | Categories: Asperger's & Autism, Asperger's and Love, Bipolar Disorder, Memoir Book Reviews, Segments and references to my memoir, Uncategorized | Tags: Asperger's and love, Asperger's Syndrome, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Battling mental illness, Bipolar 1, Bipolar Disorder, Bipolar Disorder and Love, Bisexuality, Book reviews, Clinical Social Workers, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Issues with intimacy, Issues with love, Love, Memoir, Mental illness, Psychiatric memoir, Psychiatrists, Psychiatry, Psychologists, Psychology, Romantic love, Stigma of mental illness, Therapists, Therapy | 19 Comments
Welcome to samples of my writing showcasing “Eye-locks and Other Fearsome Things.” “Eye-locks” is a Bipolar/Asperger’s memoir in narrative form that describes the triumph of love over mental illness. While not a lesson plan it documents my therapeutic journey to finding love against all odds. Useful for therapists, and for patients with Bipolar Disorder and/or Asperger’s Syndrome. A scholarly, autobiographical case history of my story was the showcase article in vopl. 13 no. 1 of Psychoanalytic Inquiry in 1993.
For the full length narrative non-fictional account click http://www.independentauthornetwork.com/ellen-stockdale-wolfe.html for a short bio, a full description, and to purchase my book.
Learning to love is an ongoing process and I am writing posts on new lessons learned.
All the original abstract painting is posted to advocate for Bipolar Disorder and Asperger’s Syndrome– for it is those very handicaps that feed my art. The more realistic nature art is dedicated to raising consciousness for animals and the environment. All other art work is purely for your enjoyment.
Finally I have also posted selections from my nature writing and poetry. My nature essays were published in a small paper in upstate New York for a year and a half. The poems have appeared throughout my life, coming and going as they please.
This is an award free blog.
July 16, 2012 | Categories: Anxiety, Asperger's & Autism, Asperger's and Love, Bipolar Disorder, Depression and Mania, Memoir Book Reviews, WELCOME! | Tags: Asperger's Syndrome, Bipolar Disorder, Bisexuality, Delusions, Depression, Fear of closeness, Love, Love as a healer, Mania, Patient's Autobiographies, Problems with Intimacy, Psychiatric Interns, Psychiatric Social Work, Psychiatrists, Psychiatry, Psychoanalytic case studies, Psychoanalytic Inquiry, Psychologists, Psychology, Social Workers, Therapeutic Relationship | 93 Comments